Tuesday 16 April 2013

The Key to Happiness is Needed When it is Locked



If I ask a question. "Are you happy right now?"

What would be your reaction? Many of you won't even stop to think. You'd be in a hurry to know what I have to say. Many might have stopped. And THOUGHT, putting pressure on your brains, and ending up being confused.
AM I HAPPY RIGHT NOW?

You might think the question is ambiguous. Are you happy, generally; or, should you think about a particular event that made you happy; should you be happy because you accomplished something; or are you happy because of a gift you got? Or are you just plain happy because you are listening to your favourite band?

Happiness can’t be defined. If you define it, you restrict it. It is dynamic. It can be found in things big and small, it can be found in failures. Is being happy at the time of a failure being shameless? No, if you tried your best. Be grateful about what you learned. Be optimistic about your future. And never stop doing. Doing anything! Learning something new. Even if it is learning how to replace buttons on your shirt. Do not learn to add in your CVs. Learn, because you had nothing else to do. Do not rely on money for happiness, but do not say ‘I want to be happy, I don’t need money’. I have never seen a person who is sad because he is able to buy all the things he needs, or has the freedom to experiment or visit new places.  
Nothing is perfect. Nobody is flawless. But everything has a balance. And happiness lies in a place where you have the freedom to imagine. You know you are happy when you can stay still; when you don’t need to yell at someone; when you can sit quietly; when you can smile for no reason; when you can resist from being what you don’t need to be; where you can diffrentiate between right and wrong.
Sometimes, it's okay to be not okay.

I won’t say plan EVERYTHING, but always stop to think when something wrong is being done, and when something life changing is happening.

I won’t say never keep a secret, but share with the ones you trust.

I won’t say leave everything up to ‘luck’, but you can’t control everything.

I won't say don't compete, just don't compare the results.

I won't say never be jealous of other people's success, but always congratulate and appreciate them.

I won't say don't be happy because of getting likes on your Facebook posts, but don't make it your sole purpose in life.

I won’t say don’t aim for a good placement or promotion, but never forget to live because of it.

I won't say never get angry, or never expect anything from others, but when something goes wrong, try to see things from the other person's point of view.

I won't say don't dress the best you can, but don't waste an hour daily trying to look like someone else.

Now, I ask again. "Are you happy right now?"

I can't answer this question, only write a blog about it. Because I know it cannot be fitted into one word.

4 comments:

  1. I have never seen a person who is sad because he is able to buy all the things he needs, or has the freedom to experiment or visit new places.
    to be corrected according to me as:
    delet word "never"
    replace because by "even"


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    1. 'Even' is what everyone says; I wanted to say 'never' only. :)

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  2. I won't say never get angry, or never expect anything from others, but when something goes wrong, try to see things from the other person's point of view.-I want to , but how?

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    1. I can't generalize anything, but I can state examples.
      (A very not-so-complicated-situation example I am taking),
      Let's say that you and you're friend made a plan to hang out, but then he/she has to cancel it.
      At that time many people think he/she doesn't want to go with me, but if that was the case that person wouldn't have come up with the plan in the first place. Maybe something important in the family or workplace came up; or if they cancelled it without a reason may they are upset. In any case getting upset over them won't help.

      If a situation arises where you just can't understand why the person reacted the way he/she did, think to yourself:
      What would have I done?
      Usually this gives the solution.
      If it doesn't, you need to understand that they had a reason, which you are unaware of, or maybe they just didn't understand the seriousness of the issue, or didn't know what you were thinking.

      PS: SOMETIMES, there is no reason.
      "Some men just want to watch the world burn."
      But since you can't do anything about such situations, ignore them, be careful from the next time.

      PPS: It's all very subjective, difficult to put in a few words.

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